5 WAYS TO MAKE HAPPINESS YOUR HABIT
By – Ayush sinha
In today’s society, happiness can seem like some elusive state of mind that only certain people can attain. However, anyone can cultivate a happy attitude, and keep it for the rest of their life. Happiness starts from within, no matter your current circumstances. Happiness simply means finding joy in this very moment, regardless of what you have or what you’re doing. Everybody possesses the capability to choose happiness, because every attitude we have is a choice.
1. YOUR MENTAL ATTITUDE – Your mental attitude is the major factor which attracts people to you in a spirit of friendliness , or repels them , according to whether your attitude is positive or negative ; and you are the only person who can determine which it shall be. your mental attitude determines , to a large extent whether you find a peace of mind or go through life in a state of frustration, anxiety and misery.
Mental attitude controls , very largely , the space one occupies in life , the success one achieves , the friends one makes and the contribution one makes to posterity . It determines your happiness .
2. ASSOCIATIONS WITH THE PEOPLE –
Our connections with other people are at the heart of happiness – theirs and ours. Whether these connections are with our partners, families, friends, work colleagues, neighbours or people in our broader communities, they all contribute to our happiness. Chris Peterson, one of the founders of positive psychology puts it simply as: “Other people matter”.
Scholars and scientists agree about the central importance of relationships for our wellbeing and our happiness. Many studies have shown that both the quality and quantity of social connections have an impact on our health and longevity as well as psychological wellbeing.
Not having close personal ties poses the same level of health risk as smoking or obesity. Having a network of social connections or high levels of social support appears to increase our immunity to infection, lower our risk of heart disease and reduce mental decline as we get older
Close, secure and supportive relationships are the most important for well-being, whether these are with our husband, wife, partner, relatives or friends. Research shows that it’s the quality of our relationships that matters most. This is influenced by:
Experiencing positive emotions together – e.g. enjoyment, fun
Being able to talk openly and feel understood
Giving and receiving of support
Shared activities and experiences
3. BE HAPPY WITH WHO YOU ARE
Not surprisingly, the current state of the world reflects the collective consciousness, which means the planet needs a good dose of happiness to turn things around. That transformation begins with you, because when you become happy within, that energy ripples out far beyond your physical body, affecting the entire universe. No matter where you live, what job you have, or how much money you make, choose to feel happy with who you are on the inside.
4.MEDITATION – Meditation allows you to increase your happiness by detaching from your emotions, instead of becoming consumed by them. For example, if you recently broke up with a long term partner after years of an intimate relationship, and you find your mind is constantly ‘going’ with negative chatter – blame, guilt, anger, frustration and the ‘he said, she said’ that often arises from a good relationship gone bad, meditation strengthens your mindfulness, which enhances your ability to detach and have a clear, fresh perspective on the past.
5. THOUGHTS WHICH YOU ALLOW IN YOUR MIND SHOULD BE POSITIVE –
A happy life and happy thoughts go hand in hand; you can’t have one without the other. Negative thoughts will inevitably enter your brain from time to time, but you don’t have to give into them. Just observe them, let them pass, and reinforce happy thoughts. Even in highly stressful and undesirable situations, you can still choose to look at the bright side of things. For example, if you get into a car accident where your car is totaled, but you and the other driver come out with just a few minor scratches, keep your attention tuned to the fact that you made it out alive.
You can avoid a lot of unnecessary inner turmoil by staying focused on the positive aspects of life, and avoiding any drama that you might create for yourself and others. Life becomes a lot simpler when we simplify our thoughts, and realize that we must strive to maintain happiness if we want to thrive during our time on Earth.
All the best from team fragrance of writing !!